Today, we went together as Z family (Big Z, Mummy Z, and Lil’Z) together to listen to a talk by Muhammad Alshareef at Dewan Muktamar Pusat Islam. The title of the talk is Undisputed.
Before Zayd, or what me and Big Z like to call (B.Z), both of us love going to talks. Any kind of talks really. We are *that* happening type of people ehehe. But after Zayd came along, our going-to-talks activities slowed down tremendously to give way to breastfeeding, night-waking, and consequently zombie-walking during the day.
Even then, alhamdulillah, we still managed to go to a few talks with the help of our babywearing gear. I remembered a few talks that we went where Zayd slept snugly in his wrap. That was when he was baby and a willing wrappee.
But when he reached 1 year, and with it came walking and running (while still breastfeeding), the going to talk became a bit challenging. This is when we hardly went to any talks and spent chasing him round and round the house instead.
After he was weaned off, I started going to my weekend courses again. And Big Z will take care of him. This is my me-time and their father-son bonding time.
But after a while, I miss going to talk with Big Z, and I really wanted us to go as a family. Alhamdulillah, tonight Allah granted that and we managed to attend this talk as a family.
All families will have different ways of raising their kid, but for me, I would really want to raise my kid around the idea of learning and seeking knowledge. I think the best thing any parent could do is to instill the love of learning and seeking knowledge from an early age.
This means bringing him with us even though we knew that there might be time where he will cry and cause a scene (which he did), and where we will have to miss portions of the talk because we have to keep walking around after him (which we did), and we have to deal with the logistics of carrying the stroller up and down the stairs (because he fall asleep in the car) and million other things that we don’t even have to think of if we were to just go to this talk by ourselves.
But now, we are no longer just family of 2, we are a family of 3. So up with the stroller we go.
Alhamdulillah, Zayd seems to be really enjoying himself running around and making us tired chasing after him. He made a few new friends. He also seems to be really popular with young ‘kakaks’ who keep going ‘oooh’ and ‘aaah’ after him.
I am really grateful to Allah for giving us this opportunity to learn together as a family. It was a really wonderful and meaningful experience. I hope we will be given more and more opportunities like this ameen.
Some gems from the talk (whenever I managed to take a note):
- Definition of ‘success’ in the Quran is having 1) iman and 2) amal soleh. The combination of heart and action. Inside and outside.
- Muslims must strive to be ‘in the zone’. Sabr and redha when first hit by a test. Stress will produce toxicity in the body, while sabr will calm our heart and elevate our spiritual self.
- “How many people are you worth?” – reflect on the worth of yourself.
- “Don’t you be the reasons that Muslim will be killed today” – do not be the weakest link of the Ummah.
- All prophets were a shpeherd. What do they learn from being a shepherd that taught them to be responsible? 1) how to get from point A to point B 2) taught them to have higher and further vision
- Take responsibility for something – based on what you love to do.
3 things to take responsibility for:
- things that you love to do
- visualise and see the future
- taking action when you make a commitment
7. Measure what you do. If it’s not measured, it’s not going to be improved.
8. Do things with ihsaan (excellence).
9. We are always only working at 40% capacity. How do we improve this? Better time management. More efficient way of doing things.
10. Nation falls when they accept that they have done enough – from Muqaddimah by Ibn Khaldun
11. Must keep upgrading ourself. Don’t be complacent.
12. 30 days challenge – only do 1 habit per challenge. 10 days will be painful. The next 10 days uncomfortable. The last 10 days unstoppable.
13. Upgrade our dua
14. Your life is the reflection of your dua
15. Roadmap of dua:
- Be inspired
- Select the things you make dua that you can take action on
- Have a dua habit
16. Don’t hold back your dua. You are asking Allah, who’s capable of Anything and Everything. Your dua’ might just be ‘crayons’ to Him.
17. Ihsaan never happens by accident. Excellence must be planned and measured.
18. Story of Umar Abd Aziz – life of making dua’
19. Begin a dua habit. 2 times: 1) between azan and iqaamah 2) after sunnah prayer before Subuh – for the next month everyday!
20. Anas’s favourite hadith – you will be with the person that you love in Akhirah.