Monthly Archives: October 2016

The Allah conversation: The continuation

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Just when I thought he is satisfied with our last ‘Allah conversation’, he sprung up a new question to me. This time, he really let me know that he never missed anything that I ever told him. Such a scary thing bringing up a child is!

This is how the conversation goes (more or less):

Zayd: But why can’t we see Allah?

Mummy: Because Allah wants us to know him in a different way.

Zayd: How?

(cracking my head real fast and a sudden inspiration hit me, alhamdulillah!)

Mummy: Do you know the wind? (hand pointing to the fan, to outside at the moving leaves) Can you see the wind?

Zayd: No.

Mummy: But you know there’s the wind right, when you feel the breeze on your face, or when you see the leaves moving. But you cannot see the wind isn’t it.

Zayd: Yes.

Mummy: It’s the same with Allah. We cannot see Allah, but we know Allah is here by looking at his creations. The sun, the moon, the trees – like in the ‘Allah created everything’ Zaky song!

Zayd: Yes! (lightbulb flashed in his eyes again as he remembered the Zaky song)

This is the moment I realised how important it is that we exposed our kids as early as possible to the things that we want them to understand later in life. Because I have exposed him to the Zaky song (from when he was about 1 year old), it’s easier for him to relate when I talk about Allah’s creations because he already has the concept in his mind.

Again, I am grateful to Allah for all the guidance and inspiration, the right words to say, the right way to say it. Because truly, being a parent made me realised this even more than ever that nothing could ever be achieved without the guidance of Allah.

We could prepare for sure, but when the ultimate moment come – it’s all by Allah’s grace and kindness that we get to do what we set out to do.

I am looking forward to more conversations like this with him. 🙂 May Allah guides us in every step of the way ameen.

 

The Allah Conversation: The first time Zayd asked about Allah.

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The first time Zayd asked about Allah is on the 14/10/2016.

It has always been my intention with Zayd to let him grow up in a God-conscious lifestyle. So from early on, I have never shy away from the ‘God’ conversation. I always find an opportunity to talk about Allah with him.

He knew the concept of Allah, the God. A being that is powerful, and the biggest, and the strongest (somehow these are concepts that really resonated with him..maybe because of the boy factor). He knew that if he needed help he can ask Allah for ‘superpower’ (again the boy thing). But these are all the information that I gave to him.

So when for the first time, he asked me about Allah, I just have to quickly jot it down (the dates here) and find time to blog about it later.

It was such a beautiful conversation alhamdulillah.

We were having our normal after-shower-while-getting-dressed conversation. This normally revolves around him telling me stories, or me reminding him of certain things from his baby days when suddenly he told me about one of his ‘scary’ episodes. (I will blog about this later) – when he suddenly asks me ‘But where is Allah?’

Wow. The QUESTION. My heart stopped for a bit while I regain my mummy composure.

Mummy: ‘We can’t see Allah now, but we can see Him when we go to Jannah’

Zayd: But why can’t I see Allah now?

(3 years old and their super curiosity)

Mummy: Because Allah is not like us human. He is different.

Zayd: (keeps quiet)

Mummy: But you know what, even when we can’t see Allah, we can always feel Allah in our heart. Whenever we make dua, Allah will always be close to us in our heart. (tapping my heart and his heart)

He seems to be quite satisfied with this answer because he can locate it to his heart.

I am truly grateful that Allah has inspired me with this answer. I don’t think I can even prepare a good answer beforehand that will satisfy a 3 years old. So I am really blessed and thankful to Allah for the guidance.

I will blog later about the continuation of this conversation.

Zayd’s timing

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This is Zayd’s first drawing. It might seems like nothing to most people, but to me, this simple drawing contained in it many important mothering lessons.

1. Kids will learn things in their own time.

I have to admit, sometimes I can be quite the anxious mother. Especially when I see other kids are already doing something that Zayd was still unable to do. I will ‘teach’ him how to do those things. And it NEVER WORKED!. No amount of cajoling, sweet-talking, threatening (!) will make him do it. In this particular case – to hold a pencil properly and write/draw/anything. Since I am a bit artsy and always either writing or drawing things – I would always asked Zayd to do the same. And he never ever want to do it. He prefer to roll his car up and down..well, anything. His cars are his universe. After a while I resigned to the fact that maybe he’s just not into pencils. Fine, it’s ok. I will work with what I have. *sob sob

But recently, he started picking up the pencil on his own and starting to draw too! With no inputs or instructions from me whatsoever! He spend a lot of time with his older cousins now and they were always drawing things. So he observed them and started doing the same.

Now he really enjoys drawing/doodling while telling me stories about what he draws/doodles.

2. Pencils open up a whole new means of expression for him.

Zayd has always been quite the verbal kid. He loves talking and telling stories. Now that he learnt how to hold the pencil and use it to draw – a whole new world seems to be opening up to him. And it was really wonderful watching his expression as he managed to translate his ideas into images. I saw the light in his eyes the first time he draw trees (in the picture above the lines and squiggly black thing eheh) and he went “mummy..trees”. Ah that expression. I still can’t forget those precious expression. It’s like suddenly he found a superpower or something. It’s truly amazing masha Allah.

(I thought I have more lessons but maybe just these 2 ehehe).

But these are really important lessons for me! It made me realise that I just need to keep trusting him and his ability. I need to trust the timing. I need to know that as long as I keep providing the right environment – he will learn these things in his own time. But the RIGHT environment is the key here.

Also, I need to keep encouraging him to explore all means of expressions. It seems that there’s  a whole world inside that little head that is yet to emerge.

Alhamdulillah, all praise to Allah for giving human ability to express ourselves. What a wonderful gift it is. Alhamdulillah.