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Zayd’s timing

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This is Zayd’s first drawing. It might seems like nothing to most people, but to me, this simple drawing contained in it many important mothering lessons.

1. Kids will learn things in their own time.

I have to admit, sometimes I can be quite the anxious mother. Especially when I see other kids are already doing something that Zayd was still unable to do. I will ‘teach’ him how to do those things. And it NEVER WORKED!. No amount of cajoling, sweet-talking, threatening (!) will make him do it. In this particular case – to hold a pencil properly and write/draw/anything. Since I am a bit artsy and always either writing or drawing things – I would always asked Zayd to do the same. And he never ever want to do it. He prefer to roll his car up and down..well, anything. His cars are his universe. After a while I resigned to the fact that maybe he’s just not into pencils. Fine, it’s ok. I will work with what I have. *sob sob

But recently, he started picking up the pencil on his own and starting to draw too! With no inputs or instructions from me whatsoever! He spend a lot of time with his older cousins now and they were always drawing things. So he observed them and started doing the same.

Now he really enjoys drawing/doodling while telling me stories about what he draws/doodles.

2. Pencils open up a whole new means of expression for him.

Zayd has always been quite the verbal kid. He loves talking and telling stories. Now that he learnt how to hold the pencil and use it to draw – a whole new world seems to be opening up to him. And it was really wonderful watching his expression as he managed to translate his ideas into images. I saw the light in his eyes the first time he draw trees (in the picture above the lines and squiggly black thing eheh) and he went “mummy..trees”. Ah that expression. I still can’t forget those precious expression. It’s like suddenly he found a superpower or something. It’s truly amazing masha Allah.

(I thought I have more lessons but maybe just these 2 ehehe).

But these are really important lessons for me! It made me realise that I just need to keep trusting him and his ability. I need to trust the timing. I need to know that as long as I keep providing the right environment – he will learn these things in his own time. But the RIGHT environment is the key here.

Also, I need to keep encouraging him to explore all means of expressions. It seems that there’s  a whole world inside that little head that is yet to emerge.

Alhamdulillah, all praise to Allah for giving human ability to express ourselves. What a wonderful gift it is. Alhamdulillah.

My Quran-reading 3 year old boy

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ok not really reading – but more mimick-ing me!

I just have to capture the moment and shared my feeling of this. After Maghrib prayer a few days ago, which he sometimes joined, (also he didn’t know how to pray and I didn’t teach him at all – he just loves to join together when me or his dad started praying), he picked up 2 Qurans from the shelf, one mine and one small shiny gold one (that he found in his ayahtok’s house and claimed as his own) – and he started ‘reading’ it. He mimicked the Arabic sound I make when I am reading my Quran and he continued to do that until I finished reading my Quran and he put both of the Quran back on it’s place.

From him I really learn the meaning that a child will not do ‘what you told them to do’, but will do ‘what you do’. In this age of parenting, where babies classes are the norm and your child is expected to know their ABC’s as soon as they can speak – I chose a different route. I chose to let my child be a child. I want him to play as much as he can, be with his families as much as possible, and just be happy.

The first 7 years of a child’s life is very precious. The sunnah told us that this is the time where we are supposed to love and play with them the most. So that they will form a strong bond with the parent and the rest of the family members. And from my observation of Zayd’s growth, he really does not need any ‘formal’ or ‘structured’ lesson plan for him to learn. He learns and absorbs everything around him like a sponge. What I did is to take care of his environment more, than to dictate what he needs to learn. By making sure that he is not exposed to too much media (tv, video, etc), and to allow him with lots of creative playing and exploring, bringing him to good places and gatherings (mosques, gathering of knowledge), I hope he will absorb his surrounding and learn from these subconsciously.

And the rest of it, I leave it to Allah to always guide him, protects him, and bless him always. My dear, dear son 🙂

9 months

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He is crawling comfortably now and ha started pulling himself up too. He can also manage a few seconds of free-standing before he grabbed on to me or drop himself to the ground. He’s getting sooo active now, tearing all over the house like a tornado! I can’t imagine what is going to be like when he started walking! His favourite toys now are his toy balls of different size, colours, and texture. He can spend a long time throwing it, chasing it, trying to get it from under the couch. Ah the simple pleasures of a nine month youngs 🙂

Oh also, he is getting more playful and also more vocal. He loves to copy the sound we made when we sneeze. Poor mamatok always became his target! :p And he also seems to be imitating sounds or songs that he heard. Just this morning (at 42 weeks) at breakfast I was feeding him while singing the qasidah and I swear he followed the melody almost note by note! I was so surprised and asked him to repeat only to be met with puzzled looking eyes. Well, maybe it comes and goes but let’s see if it is really his thing! Mummy so excited!, :)))

8 months

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He started teething at 8 months and within a few days sprouted 6 white baby teeth! 4 on the upper gum and 2 on the lower gum. He doesn’t have any fever or anything but became extra clingy. We spent most of our teething days wrapped up jn delicious wraps. And now he kept biting me everywhere! *sigh